Technology Safety

Use technology wisely.

Technology can be used to put you in danger, or to keep you safe. Since power and control are a part of partner violence, abusive partners frequently use technology to monitor and control those they abuse. Here are some things to help keep in mind as you use technology.

Do you have a feeling that you are being monitored? Here are some things to know.

  • Someone can monitor your computer use without you knowing.
  • Your internet “history” cannot be completely erased from a computer or phone.
  • Deleting your history may be a red flag to your partner.
  • Your cell phone use can be monitored.
  • A global positioning system (GPS) can be placed on your car, or in your purse.  They are built in to cell phones.
  • Court records may be online and they may contain personal information.
  • E-mail is like a postcard and can be intercepted.

Computer use can be monitored and is impossible to completely clear. If you are afraid your internet usage might be monitored, call us at 208-788-6070 OR TOLL FREE 888-676-0066.


As you surf the internet on your computer, the places you visit are stored on the computer you use. Bills you pay and purchases you make are tracked. Instant messages and emails can be retrieved. Keep in mind that as you use a computer, it might be monitored.

Safe computers can be found at the local library, internet café, shelter, work or computer technology center. Always use safe computers when researching things such as travel plans, housing options, legal issues and safety plans.

Your abusive partner could have access to your email account. To be safe, open an email account your partner does not know about on a safe computer and use that account for safety planning and sensitive communications. It is a good idea to keep your monitored account active with non-critical emails in order to maintain appearances.

Cell phones can be a beacon, tracking your exact location in real time. Call and text history can also be retrieved by an abusive partner. Additionally, a location tracking device (GPS) can be placed on your car or in your purse. Consider purchasing a pay as you go phone that you keep in a safe place to allow you to make calls.

Only post things you want the public to see or know. Once it’s online, it’s no longer under your control. Be protective of your personal information. Your phone numbers, email, and addresses enable people to contact you directly, and things like your birth date, the schools you attended, your employer and photos with landmarks may make it easier for someone to find where you live, hang out or go to school.

Set boundaries and limits. Tell people not to post personal information, negative comments or check-ins about you on social media. Ask people not to post or tag pictures if you’re not comfortable with it. Keep your passwords private – there is no need to share passwords to social media accounts with anyone. If you have a friend in an abusive relationship DO NOT post information about them without getting their permission. You could jeopardize their safety.

Call us at 208-788-6070 or toll free 888-676-0066. We are here every day of the year, 24 hours a day.